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Ca în fiecare an, vă invit în luna decembrie să prelucrăm împreună temele trecerii dintre ani, de data aceasta a anului neobișnuit 2020 și 2021.

Atelierul de final de an va avea ca tematică:

• Provocările anului 2020;
• Limitări personale și dezamăgiri ale anului;
• Lecții de viață și idealuri dezvoltate în 2020;
• 2020 în contextul larg al drumului vieții;
• Povestea personală și poveștile celor din jur;
• Decizii, exerciții, priorități pentru 2021.

Întâlnirea se va desfășura online, pe platforma Zoom, datorită contextului pandemiei.

Program: vineri, 18 decembrie 2020, orele 18:00-20:30.

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Articol de Prof. Dr. Sebastian Stănculescu

Toate materialele sunt proprietatea noastră exclusivă, fiind protejate de legile dreptului de autor, confidențialitate și protecția datelor Legea nr. 8/1996 (republicată); Directiva CE 24/2006 și Legea nr. 363/2018.

One of the biggest impacts on how we react to outer and inner experiences is our temperament.

We can understand the temperament if we think at a knight. Each knight had his armor that did not allow his skin to be visible and vulnerable to his potential enemies. This armor makes one reveal oneself differently to others, as the others can only see the metal shield, can hear a voice behind a mask and can see a behavior, but not the eyes that cry or smile. So is it likewise with our temperament, the shield or armor of our self that censors the way others can see our inner world. And as this metal shield surrounds us entirely, most of our mobility and reactions are limited by its nature and texture. Each human being is put inside the armor of his/ her temperament during his/ her life, from the early years of childhood. And the individual’s perspective of the world is always filtered by temperament, as an inner constitution.

It was stated by many psychiatrists and psychologists in the last century that the temperament cannot be changed, but moderated by one’s personality. And this is true if one does not take off the armor through a serious training in self development. So this rule is true for most people, but not for those who go through a deep process of transformation by personal development. During the self knowledge practices, we learn to understand texture and limitation of the armor. But the personal and spiritual development practices help one take off this armor piece by piece and learn to act freely at a deeper level.

The four temperaments are highly dependent on the physical activity of our glands and other organic functions, so only an inner transformation so significant that it creates a change in the bodily fluids and physiology can change it. It is a given reality that the temperament is the first and sometimes biggest beast one has to tame. So a good understanding of its essence is a necessity in every self development path as such.

The alchemic perspective used both in medicine and ancient philosophy associated the four temperaments with the four elements: earth – melancholic, water – phlegmatic, air – sanguine and fire – choleric and this will be the starting point of our journey.

It must be stated for the future chapters as well that the temperament does not belong to the inner life of the individual and is not a content of the soul, but the layer or armor through which one connects one’s inner world to the outer reality.
In the following brief description of the temperaments, I intend to describe the restrictions that each of them raises to the power of our I, since we are on a self knowledge path and need to see the inner processes and their interaction clearly in order to take hold of them with full consciousness in the future.

People are not their temperaments. The temperament is the filter that the self has to stream through in order to reach out into the world. But the same thoughts, the same feelings, the same impulses are experienced at different intensities by each temperament configuration, even if for the individual self it has the same value. The sadness for not finding a purpose in life is expressed differently, though it is the same experience of the heart: the choleric might be aggressive and frustration will lead to destroying what he built; the sanguine might cry out loud and create a drama because God doesn’t love him; the phlegmatic might cope with the sadness by eating too much, by oversleeping or he may generate a somatic disease; the melancholic might sink into a depression and think he is no good and that is why there is no purpose in anything anymore. The individual self of each person chose before birth a certain genetic inheritance that activates the temperament that is the best tool for one’s life mission. And this temperament is not only the tool, but the means of what one has to develop in order to fulfill the tasks of life for the world.

Having approached each temperament separately (in the four separate articles from this series), we might have already observed that each individual has an armor that is a composite of more characteristics. Each individual has an armor that is made of all four temperaments, but they are not balanced, so that two of them are usually very strong and take over the other two, that cannot bloom and grow.

The stronger one temperament is, the more captive the lower self is within its restrictions. That is the reason why one should find for oneself the two or three dominating temperament configurations determined by hereditary and physiological laws and start developing the other two that are more or less missing. The best way to work with one’s temperament isn’t fighting with what we are. As an example, if a choleric fights his anger, he might only grow it at a deeper level; so he might not fight his boss at noon, but yell at his wife in the evening. What the choleric ought to do is to develop the calmness of the one temperament he can’t stand: the phlegmatic. The same goes for the melancholic, who thinks too much of a situation and cannot decide what to do. He must grow the choleric strength inside himself with determination. When the sanguine sees his senseless speech in some life situation, he might try to deepen relationships like a melancholic would do. Meeting his own laziness and seeking for comfort, the phlegmatic should develop the sanguine’s dynamism or the choleric’s strong impulsive will. These are examples of how to work with developing what is weaker out of our four-folded temperament structure. Sometimes the two dominating temperaments balance themselves within the inner world’s configuration. But there are always the other two temperaments that must be developed for reaching a balanced path of inner transformation in order to achieve a wider, free perspective on life.

Articol de Prof. Dr. Sebastian Stănculescu

Toate materialele sunt proprietatea noastră exclusivă, fiind protejate de legile dreptului de autor, confidențialitate și protecția datelor Legea nr. 8/1996 (republicată); Directiva CE 24/2006 și Legea nr. 363/2018.

Gândire, afectivitate și voință sau cogniției, emoții și impulsuri de voință

Dacă ne raportăm la viața interioară a omului, putem spune că avem trei domenii distincte care o descriu. Există un domeniu al cogniției, al activităților mentale, al gândurilor, unul al afectivității sau sentimentelor și unul al impulsurilor de voință. Între aceste trei domenii se desfășoară toate procesele psihice, unde intervin forțele de cogniție/gândire, forțele afectivității/simțirii și forțele de voință ale omului, numite uneori mecanisme sau funcții psihice.

Lumea gândurilor este formată din reprezentările și noțiunile noastre, pe care forțele cognitive le conectează între ele în gânduri complexe și concepții care devin modul nostru de a ne raporta la lume. Astfel, un om care a trecut printr-un război și crede că toți oamenii pot trăda pe cineva dacă sunt forțați, poate percepe lumea prin acest filtru cognitiv, care va interpreta multe situații nepolarizate drept acte de trădare sau răutate. În lumea gândurilor fiecărui om trăiesc mentalități, concepții, sisteme de interpretare a realității care, dacă nu sunt adaptate realității exterioare, duc la psihoze și exagerări.

Lumea afectelor este formată din senzațiile corporale de plăcere/neplăcere, emoțiile de anxietate, liniștire, bucurie sau nervozitate, ori sentimente mai complexe, cu o perioadă de viață mai lungă, precum iubirea, prietenia, încrederea ș.a. Forțele afectivității ne permit să percepem în mod sensibil lumea din jur prin forțe ale simpatiei sau empatiei. Când lumea interioară este acaparată de emoții puternice brute, precum anxietatea sau furia, empatia sau deschiderea pentru înțelegerea problemelor altor persoane sunt scăzute. De cele mai multe ori, forțele de gândire agită lumea emoțiilor, gândurile stârnind frica sau bucuria într-o fracțiune de secundă. Tot ele sunt și cele care pot calma afectele tot într-o fracțiune de secundă. Când ne speriem că am pierdut portmoneul, gândul ne agită și ne sperie imediat; când ne amintim că este în ghiozdan, ne liniștim și ne bucurăm imediat. Puterea gândurilor asupra emoțiilor este cunoscută de mii de ani, fiind uneori exploatată pozitiv în tehnicile de gândire pozitivă și cultivare a optimismului.

Lumea voinței este populată de impulsurile și pornirile noastre mai puțin conștiente, care guvernează deseori funcțiile mișcărilor corporale. Aici stă o resursă importantă de energie psihică, pe care o simțim când anumite impulsuri ne mobilizează puternic, încât simțim resurse noi de forță și determinare. Din domeniul voinței apar entuziasmul, perseverența și energia care înving deseori oboseala, comoditatea sau chiar boala.

Lumea interioară a oamenilor este structurată diferit în funcție de stadiul în care sunt dezvoltate cele trei tipuri de forțe psihice, astfel că există oameni a căror gândire este mai dezvoltată în detrimentul altor funcții sufletești, oameni a căror afectivitate este devzoltată în exces față de celelalte două și oameni a căror voință este dezvoltată mai mult decât gândirea și simțirea. Fiecare individ are o structură personală în care anmite forțe îi sunt mai accesibile decât altele. Dezvoltarea personală prespune echilibrarea acestora prin temperarea unei hiper- activități la un domeniu și activarea unei hipo-activități în altul, pentru a atinge o coerență între forțele sufletești. Dezechilibrul apare atunci când, la nivel individual, gândim un lucru, dar facem altul, ori face un lucru, dar simțim diferit. Cel mai frecvent conflict de acest fel este între gândirea și simțirea neechilibrate.

Articol de Prof. Dr. Sebastian Stănculescu

Toate materialele sunt proprietatea noastră exclusivă, fiind protejate de legile dreptului de autor, confidențialitate și protecția datelor Legea nr. 8/1996 (republicată); Directiva CE 24/2006 și Legea nr. 363/2018.

The Phlegmatic

Characteristics

The phlegmatic lives in his own world, where everything seems silent and peaceful. Sometimes you might have the feeling you’ve lost him/her or that he/she is not present because of his/her self-sufficiency, but you will be wrong. The phlegmatic is always there listening, quiet and friendly, open to making a joke out of everything, especially out of the work that requires too much effort. Because the phlegmatic doesn’t usually like to move nor work too much; but when he/she does move, you have to respect his time, that might take a while, compared to all other temperament types. The phlegmatic likes tasty food and good fragrances and can spend the whole day enjoying small life pleasures such as sleeping, reading or eating. The most important gift of the phlegmatic is the strong inner balance he brings around, a balance that survives many challenges and struggles that not many people can cope with easily.

Relationship to other temperaments

The phlegmatic needs peace and understanding among people in his social environment. He/she is very friendly and trustworthy, the phlegmatic likes to listen to people’s stories and one can rely on his/her stability. The relationship with the melancholic is the most comfortable for him/her, but he/she can find understanding for the sanguine’s dynamic nature and build good friendships with him too. The choleric is at times annoying to the phlegmatic because cholerics do not respect his/her space by being too pushy or too fast; the choleric also talks too loudly and is impolite to people – the phlegmatic might argue. The company of the phlegmatic creates a ‘Zen’ atmosphere in every office or house. This temperament is connected with balancing the others and bringing peace and positivity into the world; when the phlegmatic cannot find his social role, the phlegmatic will become lazy and tired, he/she will give up his/her jokes and hide in his/her own inner hidden world.

Balancing the phlegmatic’s gift

The phlegmatic trusts friendships and their stability, so he/she suffers when friendships cannot last. The phlegmatic is influenced by kindness and care and suffers when he sees injustice in the world. When all his/her patience, goodwill and inner peace cannot find a way into the world, the phlegmatic will turn to the inner life like a withering flower. The phlegmatic temperament is the greatest help in expressing one’s higher self impulses for the world by bringing harmony and balance among others, many times by taking a step back from his own needs in order to make others happy and fulfilled (an attitude that could become destructive if overdone).

Articol de Prof. Dr. Sebastian Stănculescu

Toate materialele sunt proprietatea noastră exclusivă, fiind protejate de legile dreptului de autor, confidențialitate și protecția datelor Legea nr. 8/1996 (republicată); Directiva CE 24/2006 și Legea nr. 363/2018.

The Melancholic

Characteristics

The melancholic always looks a bit sad and concerned about deep problems that no one else thought ever existed. And when problems don’t exist, the melancholic creates them because he/she likes to meditate and reason about all of life’s problems. The melancholic is critical and pedantic and always keeps things in perfect order or he/she feels somehow guilty for not always doing things right. He/she doesn’t usually speak of his/her feelings until it becomes too late to change things, even if it is something big like a divorce or quitting one’s job. But when the melancholic does speak, he/she is so critical and judgmental that he/she often hurts the ones he loves by not being able to forget and let go. He/she is highly responsible and reliable and likes to pose as a victim when the stress exceeds his/her tolerance limit. Always trying to be orderly and clean, rational and structured, the melancholic is of great help when one needs coherence and stability. The most important gift of the melancholic is the depth and seriousness in all he does.

Relationship to other temperaments

The melancholic needs coherence and order to feel stability in the world. He/she is highly perfectionist and this makes him/her sad when life itself takes its own turns and causes unplanned imperfections. The melancholic gets along best with other melancholics, as they also find themselves profound and understand each other better in their fears and needs for perfection. The relationship with the choleric is painful and the melancholic many times poses as a victim, because they neither appreciate being told what to do, nor being shouted at. The sanguine is hard to live with for a melancholic because of the latter’s sudden changes of thought, superficiality and light joyfulness, which are not the melancholic’s way of being. The relationship with the phlegmatic is peaceful and long lasting. This temperament has the task to deepen life’s experiences with a special sensitivity towards the innermost struggles of the soul; when it does not find its balance, the melancholic temperament leads to self destruction, depression and cynicism.

Balancing the melancholic’s gift

The melancholic is well organized and careful with details. Chaos and spontaneity make him/her feel tired and frustrated because the melancholic likes to anticipate all future events, but since this is not possible, his/her life challenge is to find tolerance with change and becoming malleable. The melancholic temperament brings order and a deep and kind understanding of life, helping the lower self go through deeper processes of introspection and healing in order to develop the higher self.

Articol de Prof. Dr. Sebastian Stănculescu

Toate materialele sunt proprietatea noastră exclusivă, fiind protejate de legile dreptului de autor, confidențialitate și protecția datelor Legea nr. 8/1996 (republicată); Directiva CE 24/2006 și Legea nr. 363/2018.

The Sanguine

Characteristics

The sanguine is always smiling and laughing out loud for reasons that are not so clear to the others around, but they all laugh along because of the joy he/she brings. Sanguines are funny and sociable, they like to be popular and have many people and interesting things around them, no matter if the people or things are just there for two minutes or for a lifetime. Everything is loud and dramatic for a sanguin but, fortunately, all sadness lasts for about two minutes due to a superficial general mood. The sanguine likes telling jokes and stories and he/she is often exaggerating in order to attract more public attention around him/her. She/he needs appreciation and good feedback from others, as she/he is addicted to his/her fans. The sanguine is usually late and loses important things such as keys, watches and even kids, because he/she doesn’t do well with serious responsibilities. The most important gifts of the sanguine are his joyful and sensitive openness to the world and his capacity to create connections.

Relationship to other temperaments

The sanguine needs many people around and longes for the joy of everyday life experiences. He likes to be near other sanguines, as they will also laugh and talk a lot, creating joyful environments. The relationship with the choleric is the most dynamic because it brings action and movement into their lives. Melancholics can’t accept the sanguine’s being late, superficial talk or lack of responsibility manifested through losing or forgetting important things. Because the sanguine does not like the melancholic’s seriousness and critical mood, it is challenging for the two to meet in a relationship as a couple. But if they are in a relationship, both have much to learn from each other. The phlegmatic is no fun to the sanguine, but both have a good sense of humor and like friendships and happy people. This temperament is connected with social life activities, as is the choleric and, when he/she cannot find his/her social role, the sanguine will suffer because all the need for connection will cause sadness, lack of energy and even illness.

Balancing the sanguine’s gift

The sanguine suffers when things are too serious and when loneliness appears in his life. His/her task is a social task and many times will attracts people by making new friends every day and telling them stories and jokes to make them happy. But out of the need to receive attention from others, the sanguine easily becomes superficial and hides the truth or exaggerates many of his/her ‘stories’ in order to be popular and funny. The sanguine temperament is the greatest help in expressing one’s higher self impulses for the world when he/she works for others in helping them connect with the world and find the joy of living and the optimism and positive mood in all life’s challenges.

Articol de Prof. Dr. Sebastian Stănculescu

Toate materialele sunt proprietatea noastră exclusivă, fiind protejate de legile dreptului de autor, confidențialitate și protecția datelor Legea nr. 8/1996 (republicată); Directiva CE 24/2006 și Legea nr. 363/2018.

The Choleric

Characteristics

The choleric is always giving unrequested advice to others’ problems because he knows what is best for everyone. He speaks loudly and is determined and many times has an aggressive tone. When asked why he speaks so loudly, a choleric usually shouts back at you that he doesn’t speak loudly at all. Always active and having the best ideas to start new things and new projects, he is stubborn and fights on the wrong side of the battle field, often hurting the ones he loves most. Being very impulsive and having access to a strong will power, he takes on many responsibilities and is usually trustworthy and perseverant, even when an idea does not lead to a good end for him or others. The most important gift of the choleric is the strength of his will.

Relationship to other temperaments

The choleric needs space to manifest his will impulses and power. He must find an activity that requires this strong will and needs to express his need for action and change, otherwise he will feel frustrated for not having the opportunity to offer his ideas to the world. The choleric can become impulsive and aggressive when his will power is kept inside and does not find a way to act in the outer reality. He has neither patience nor tolerance to the others’ needs or rhythm of action, because it is in the nature of will itself to flow fast and go towards the future with determination. One must know that the choleric gets angry easily and can become rude, but after five minutes he regains his inner calm and forgets what upset him, acting peacefully as if nothing happened.

This is mostly painful for melancholics who are not able to forgive and often take things personally. The choleric makes a good party with the sanguine, as they are both active in the social field and have a faster rhythm of action. The most difficult relationship is that with the phlegmatic, who is too slow and too silent for the choleric’s structure and understanding. The choleric has a great capacity to change the world and break the walls of the past in order to open new perspectives. This temperament is connected with social life activities and when he cannot find his balanced leading role for others, the choleric will suffer a lot, as all his will power will turn against himself and destroy his dignity, his strength and often his determination.

Balancing the choleric’s gift

The choleric will feel good when asked for advice. He likes to be helpful and lead projects and initiatives. But this can sometimes make him a tyrant for the ones he leads. The choleric reaches his balance when he overcomes his own will to rule and tell others what he thinks is best for them, as this is only the shade of his gift. The choleric temperament is the greatest help in expressing one’s higher self impulses for the world when he decides to be the care giver for others, the protector of good and the helper of the weak.

Articol de Prof. Dr. Sebastian Stănculescu

Toate materialele sunt proprietatea noastră exclusivă, fiind protejate de legile dreptului de autor, confidențialitate și protecția datelor Legea nr. 8/1996 (republicată); Directiva CE 24/2006 și Legea nr. 363/2018.

Cum arată viitorul?

– Tendinte și pericole. Direcții și extreme. Progres și regres.

– Perspective tehnice, sociale, morale și spirituale.

Prelegerile vor avea loc online, prin platforma Zoom.

Sâmbătă, 28 noiembrie 2020, orele 10:00-12:30.

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Școala de vară pentru dezvoltare personală

19-24 iulie 2020

Vă invit și în acest an la un seminar unde vom lucra prin tehnici de dezvoltare a conștienței, arte combinate și exerciții de dezvoltare personală la relațiile dintre noi și partener, noi și ceilalți, noi și lume, învățând să punem limite și să păstrăm echilibrul.

Structură

Programul presupune participarea la  5 zile de activități intensive, de la ora 10:00 până la ora 17:00. Toate evenimentele sunt destinate dezvoltării personale, astfel că experiențele mijlocite de toate atelierele sunt clădite una pe alta, pentru a oferi un sprijin real în dezvoltarea fiecărui participant la finalul celor 5 zile.

Program

09:00-10:00 – Mic dejun

10:00-11:15 – Atelier dezvoltare abilități sociale

11:30-13:00 – Curs dezvoltare personală I

13:00 – 14:00 – Masa de prânz

14:00-15:15 – Atelier artistic

15:30-17:00 – Curs dezvoltare personală II

19:00 – 19:30 – Cina

După ora 17:00, programul este liber initiațivelor și proiectelor individuale.

Deschiderea scolii de vară va avea loc duminica, 19 iulie 2020, la ora 20:00, cu prelegerea “Dezvoltarea individualității și puterea interioară”, iar încheierea va fi vineri, 24 iulie 2020, la ora 12:00, cu prelegerea “Consolidarea relațiilor. De la eu la împreună”.

Participare

La acest eveniment pot participa cei care doresc să lucreze la dezvoltarea lor personală pentru a deveni mai echilibrati și mai puternici. Pot lua parte la eveniment și persoane care nu au participat anterior la ateliere de dezvoltare personală, cu condiția să aibă peste 16 ani.

Școala de vară va dura 5 zile. Locurile fiind limitate, ele se vor ocupa în ordinea înscrierilor, dupa ce organizatorii aprobă solicitările de participare.

Locație

Evenimentul va avea loc la Izvorul Mureșului. Detaliile de participare la școala de vară vor fi trimise pe email celor înscriși.

Înscrieri

Pentru a vă rezerva un loc sau pentru a solicita informații suplimentare vă rugăm trimiteți un email AICI. Datorită specificului activității, locurile sunt limitate și se vor ocupa în ordinea înscrierilor.

Organizator și coordonare activități

Prof. Dr. Sebastian Stănculescu – trainer, coordonator cursuri dezvoltare personală, psiholog,  autor.